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Redefining Home

Friday, January 17, 2020

Place matters, especially when home must be redefined because the person with whom you made a home is no longer alive.

Parenting My Grieving Children

Friday, January 10, 2020

Grief comes in waves, in ebbs and flows, even for three-year old toddlers. That first year without Brett was a pendulum of conversation, reasoning, and tears. But there’s nothing easy or linear about parenting, let alone parenting grieving children. I learned not to expect too much from myself or from them.

The Reality of Grief

Friday, January 3, 2020

When at last Brett died, I expected peace, not chaos all over again. I’d buried him prematurely in my dreams throughout his illness, bracing myself, I suppose, for the inevitable. Now that he was truly gone though, I was unprepared for the tidal wave of grief within me. The first few months after Brett died were a blur.

A Beautiful Death

Friday, December 13, 2019

The toll of Brett's cancer on his body made home hospice no longer a viable option. After his most recent seizure, he was admitted into hospice. Going into hospice was almost a relief. I lived with premature anticipatory grief for years knowing Brett's cancer was incurable.

Caregiver's Perspective: Shifting Moments

Friday, December 6, 2019

Being Brett’s wife and caregiver was a complicated role, and it strained my nerves. It was hard to simply rest my head on his shoulder the way I used to, or to express my own need for emotional intimacy and comfort when the gravity of his illness loomed large. I bounced back quickly from hurt feelings because there was no choice but to be present when we our time together as a family was diminishing. Every moment mattered.

Out of Options

Friday, November 22, 2019

Six years into her husband's cancer diagnosis, Nancy Sharp felt cancer's toll on their marriage and children. Like many caregivers, she learned to cope and adapt, even as Brett's brain tumor progressed and treatment options failed.

Caregiver’s Remorse

Friday, November 15, 2019

Nancy Sharp was a new mother wanting to go on her first family vacation with her husband and twins, but even that isn't so simple when you're a cancer caregiver.

For Cancer Caregivers, Even Nanoseconds Count

Friday, November 8, 2019

For cancer caregivers, life is lived even down to the nanosecond. Time for me has become less a measurement of the day than the minutes.

Holding Joy and Pain Together

Friday, November 1, 2019

Cancer caregivers must learn to embrace the gray of life.

Living with Cautious Optimism

Friday, October 25, 2019

When your loved on is diagnosed with cancer, and life seems to throw you one bad turn after the next, hope can seem elusive.Cautious optimism taught me how to hope again and to navigate the bumps of life which are always more jarring after a cancer diagnosis.

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