Finding people to support you is perhaps the most important thing you can do following the loss of someone you love. People with greater social support tend to do better while grieving. This isn’t to say you need to always be with people. It means finding “safe” places where you can receive support for feeling the many emotions that you will experience during grief. Friends and family members may be able to buoy you up emotionally, provide distraction, and even help you with practical matters. Most importantly they can listen. Although you won’t always feel like talking, knowing that there is someone who will listen is important.
Support groups are a great way to meet others who share the experience of loss, especially when and if you don’t want to rely exclusively on family or friends. Also, you should consider professional counseling when negative emotions or grief lasts for an extended period of time or interferes significantly with your life. Most local hospitals or hospices can help you find support groups or can refer you to professional counselors experienced in working with grief.
You have been through a very difficult time. Take time to recover and to grieve. You will never stop missing your loved one, and things will never be entirely the same again. As you grieve, however, don’t ignore ways that you might be growing or becoming stronger. People who experience loss sometimes become closer to family or friends, become more spiritual, have a new appreciation for life, or gain new perspectives.
You will never stop remembering, nor should you. Nonetheless, in time you will look ahead toward the future, and in the long run you may be stronger and more fully alive.