For some people, emotions like regret and guilt are major parts of the grief experience. These emotions are normal both before and after the death of a loved one. Although sometimes there really is something worth feeling guilty about, more often guilt results from being too hard on yourself.
It is important to recognize if you are distorting things, as it can stand in the way of healing. Some thoughts may be, “I didn’t say or do enough,” “I made a wrong decision,” “I am a bad person.” While there may be some regret, most often people do the very best that they can under the circumstances. Try to be gentle with yourself and accept that you did what you thought was right and what was possible for you and your loved one at the time.